The Boroughs Family

The Boroughs Family

Sunday, May 2, 2010

A life transformed through adoption

To say that adoption is life-altering is an understatement. A child goes from being an orphan with no family, and an uncertain (at best) future, and in a moment life is radically different. Through the act of adoption, an orphan becomes a cherished son or daughter, they belong to a family, and their future is suddenly full of promise.

However, the life I am referring to is not any of my adopted children’s, but my own. You see, I knew life would change with the adoption of each of my children. What I didn’t anticipate is how God would use adoption to transform me. I had no idea that He would reveal so much of His character to me in the adoption process. His adoption of me took on such literal meaning as I adopted each of my children. I already knew God loved me, but I got a much deeper understanding of the depth and breadth of that love. I had no idea how much you could love and miss someone that you had never met. I could not imagine the sacrifices I would be willing to make or the distance I would go, for someone who was literally a complete stranger.

The act of adoption has also taught me much about my character, and some of those lessons have been difficult to learn; I can be fearful, impatient, faithless, doubting, and whiny. On the other hand, I have learned that can be persistent and stubborn, assertive, and a “mama bear” anytime a situation calls for me to defend my children. I have gained a better understanding about unconditional love, and found out how exceedingly challenging it is to actually love someone without conditions (I dare you to really examine if you have a person in your life that you love, that doesn’t love you back).

Adoption has changed and altered me, and I will never be the same. I thank God every day that He would allow me to be transformed through the miracle of adoption. I cannot imagine my life without my amazing kids, and I am blessed beyond words to be their mom!


NDMom said...

Beautiful....thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings on how God has used adoption to shape and mold you into his wonderful daughter that we got to meet in Ukraine! Love, Paula

Reading Widely said...

So true! Adoption has transformed my life as well!